In public, it seems like everyone else is so much more interesting than I am. Making conversation is a lot of trouble. I know this sounds silly, but do you know if there is anything that can be done about it? I heard you had a booklet about being more social. Is it still published? If so, how can I get one? -- VICTORIA IN SOUTH CAROLINA
Dear Soft Spoken Victoria,
Hmm, I gotta say I don't relate to this problem. I kind of have the opposite problem. I don't have a book published on this, but I'm so gonna get on it! You are way over thinking this. I'm telling ya, it's better to be oblivious. Assume everyone loves you. Assume that they're dying to hear what you have to say. They are hanging on every word. They showed up to the party just hoping that you'd be there. The truth is, once you realize that not everyone is going to love ya, (because lets be honest, do you love everyone?) does it really matter? No one is perfect. If your current social group doesn't find you to be as hilarious as your family does, then find new friends. Life is too short to waste it on trying to impress others. And as far as feeling rude for not speaking, smile more! No one will find you rude if you're smiling and listening! In fact, that's my best crowd.